Monica Lewinsky thinks Bill Clinton should have resigned in the midst of the affair: bigger revelations

Almost three decades later, Monica Lewinsky is reflecting on his adventure Bill Clinton – And the consequences.

“I think what, you know, what we see now in the world today and as an older woman; I hate breaking it to any 24 -year -old who listens to this, because I know 21 A, how, 25, you think you know everything. You are like:” I’m in the adult now. I know everything. I’m sorry to say -you will look again this time. I feel like “Oh, Little 20 years old,” by The by The “Call your father” Podcast. “Yes, no. So you know, I thought it was something that wasn’t, and my feelings were real. And it was very frustrating and painful for people to talk about this in a way that was not false. “

Lewinsky became home name in 1998 when his two -year relationship with Bill, who is married Hillary Clintonwas revealed. Bill was taught by the House of Representatives, but was acquitted of all charges in 1999. He remained in office until the end of the second term in 2001.

Years later Lewinsky waits Claim their identity. “Although I will always be defined somehow for my story, I am also defined by my present,” Lewinsky said.

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How the affair should be handled

After the news is broken The adventureBill made a public statement claiming he did not have sex with Lewinsky. Looking back, Lewinsky believes that the consequences should have been manipulated differently.

“I think the correct way to manage a situation like this would probably have been to say that it was not anyone’s business and to resign, or to find a way to remain in charge that was not lying and not to launch a young man who has just started in the world on the bus,” said Lewinsky. “At the same time, I am feeling -to say to me and it is like:” OK, but we are also talking about the most powerful office in the world. “

After the scandal, Lewinsky made a number of public apologies, but said he did not receive them in exchange for some involved.

“I have had a good number of people involved in the moment I found in different ways, who have acknowledged that they want them to have taken different options,” said Lewinsky. “None of the people who were, you know, a kind of previous names involved in the research and I am very grateful that I am in a place where I no longer need it.”

When asked if there was a time when he felt like he needed apologies, Lewinsky replied, “Oh, safe.”

“Well, I think so, and that this is something I don’t do; I don’t know that I still unpacked it for me,” Lewinsky continued. “ I think often with the writing I do, it is as if I have an idea for something and that it raises the seed and I leave it, I am like: ‘OK, some version of me, it is to think that you can go out on a page’ ‘, but I think many things have to do with the intersection of my life change because, although I will always be defined in some way in my story, I am also defined by my present,

After the adventure

Lewinsky had “many” rock backgrounds after the news of the adventure.

“I guess it was what came out on the news that day, whatever it was, it was too much,” he said. “And I had been reminded of thinking, OK, I could, the first two weeks of the investigation, I had no therapist, I couldn’t follow medication. And finally I was able to get a therapist who had to be a forensic psychologist, which was incredible, Dr. Susan. Today I am still grateful. And I remember thinking, “OK, I’ll call her. And if she responds, I stay. And if you don’t, I’m out. So I think for me it was the background of rock. “”

Sailing his scandal led Lewinsky to become a defender of cyberbullying prevention. “What I experienced and now why I care so much with the young people, because I understand what this is in line and with social media, there is no border,” he said. “He feels literally as if everyone laughs at you. And he is devastating.”

Was planned to change his name

When he advanced, Lewinsky admitted that he considered modifying his name. “There was certainly a period of time when I contemplated it, except for the world we lived, I could not even see a reality of this,” said Lewinsky. “How will it really work? I will walk along Los Angeles Street, where I was raised and I met someone and they will say “Monica” and (I will say), “Oh, my name is Rebecca now.” “”

Lewinsky also contemplated renamed his resume, but thought he would be recognized if he entered an interview. As time went on, Lewinsky “felt very strongly” that he did not want to alter his moniker.

“Why should I change my name?” Said Lewinsky. “ I bet that no one has asked Bill, he has ever thought about renaming his name? OK, I have it because he was the most famous person right now, and the president, etc., but even the idea would never cross someone’s mind to a man. I regret many different decisions that I have made both before ’98 and in post ’98, I am a human. But I am not ashamed of who I am. ”

Lewinsky’s name has now played a role why he has not taken place in online appointments. “Part of why I did not (do) online dating is all this if you do not want to use your name, start something with a lie,” said Lewinsky. “That doesn’t seem to me all right either.”

His dating life now

While Lewinsky has it “Always Date” She has not been completely successful. “I was someone who wanted to marry and have children, and I had a little spent this point of having children naturally, so I think it was a focus for a long time, but it was definitely my dating life, I think, sometimes,” he said.

Lewinsky said he had had “couple cases” where people have not pursued appointments for the correct reasons, but he trusts his “bulls – detector”.

“There is a wide range of how intimacy is going after something like this, and it’s like, luckily, no one asked me to bring a bender to the bedroom, but I mean there has been, it’s complicated,” he said. “Look, I think our comfort level and it can be generational, but I think the level of comfort to feel -you really are like you can have your own sexuality can be a layer that many pass when you add in the way you were sexualized and humiliated around sex. It makes it more complicated.”

Lewinsky, who does not drink, but not 100 percent sober, he thinks he can have more privacy if he consumed alcohol. “Now I joke, if I still drank, I would probably have much more sex,” he said, clarifying that it meant “casual sex”.

Imbalance of sailing power

In Lewinsky’s mind, power imbalances were not something that was talked about for many decades, “almost three decades ago.

Although he acknowledged that this was not “sexual aggression,” Lewinsky said: “There is therefore, there is a level of agreement that was there and, at the same time, due to the dynamics of power and the differential of power, it should never have been in this position.”

If there was one tip, he could tell his 22-year-old, Lewinsky said, “Don’t go to Washington.”